Time Together

Time Together

Coffee. Tea. Hot chocolate. What a diverse group. Ignoring the noise in the coffee shop, I relaxed against my husband. The tea warmed my body and the conversation warmed my heart. I wished for a tape recorder or pen and paper to take notes as I listened to R.J. and his friend discuss relationships, especially the bond between a father and son.

 

Tom’s eyes twinkled as he graphically described his son’s recent choir performance. The curtain parted and the teenagers began to sing. While they sounded like angels, he could tell some were uncomfortable and would rather be elsewhere. The audience faithfully applauded after each presentation, encouraging the choir.

 

At the final curtain call, Tom put his fingers to his lips and let out a shrill whistle of approval, unnerving all those around him and receiving some pretty nasty glares and exclamations of disgust.

 

In the car on the way home, Tyler leaned forward and asked his dad where he was sitting in the auditorium. In the back? Tom nodded, “Yes.” And Tyler responded, “I knew that was you whistling. I leaned over to my friend and told him, ‘That’s my Dad.'”

 

Tom glanced in the rear view mirror and saw the smile of satisfaction on his son’s face, and the memory of the hateful glares he’d received earlier paled in significance. A priceless moment. A treasured memory. Without a doubt, his son knew he was there for him, loved him, and wasn’t ashamed to tell the world he was proud of him!

 

R.J. and I smiled as we shared Tom’s joy in finding a creative way to express his unconditional love for his son. The men continued to share imaginative ways to affirm their sons. Standing in the rain at football games, shooting hoops together, working on science projects together, going fishing together, playing catch together, and changing the oil in the car together were at the top of their lists.

 

I noticed the key to their suggestions was the word together. Time spent with a child is the biggest and most productive ingredient in the formula. Sons and daughters both long for time with Dad. And I found myself praying, “Oh Lord, give us more fathers willing to step out of their comfort zones–regardless of the consequences–and evidence their love for their children. May fear of other’s reactions and possible rejection not cause them to hesitate to openly express approval and encouragement for their children. May they not be preoccupied with cell phones or pagers, but pay attention, applaud, whistle, and cheer for each child’s accomplishment.

 

Fill fathers everywhere with the desire to examine their schedules and seek Your guidance as they set their priorities. May they realize the influence they have on their children and place time with them as a priority. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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©Edwina Patterson

 

Lessons Learned

The knock on the door sounded timid yet persistent. I opened the door and discovered four-year-old Stephen standing there. I anticipated a request for cookies and Kool-Aide and wondered why Russell hadn’t asked himself. He was probably too busy playing and just sent his friend for supplies, I reasoned.

 

Before I could offer some refreshments, Stephen quietly said, “Mrs. Patterson, Russell needs you.” I was confused and stepped outside where I was met with blood-curdling screams. “Mom, help me!” I turned toward the sound and nearly fainted. My small son was hanging by one hand from a branch on a tall tree.

 

My feet flew as I ran down the street in his direction. “Hang on, son. I’m coming!”

What is he doing in a tree? They were supposed to be playing in the front yard. I only went inside to turn the on the oven and look what happened!

 

I stood beneath the tree and tried to catch my breath. As I surveyed the situation, I wondered how I could help him. He was too far up to reach. Did I have time to find a ladder? Should I try to break his fall with my body? Lord, what do I do? He’s so little and he’s so far up!

 

The fear in his eyes propelled my mother’s protective heart into action. With a confidence I didn’t possess, I calmly instructed him to let go, reassuring him that I would catch him. He hesitated only a moment, looked me in the eyes, and trustingly let go.

 

The moment I saw his little hand release his hold of the branch, I braced myself and fervently prayed, “Lord, let me catch him. Make my arms like a big baseball glove!” Though he was only four, I felt I’d been hit by a steam engine as his body fell into my arms. We both fell to the ground. Stunned, we sat there for a moment. Then we both began to cry tears of fear, doubt, joy, and relief. I was angry he had climbed the tree and at the same time grateful he hadn’t been hurt.

 

Slowly, I got up, took both boys by the hand and started for home. I found myself praying, “How do I handle this, Lord? I need your insight and wisdom. What do I say to these boys? How do I impress upon them the danger of climbing trees? Am I being overly protective? When does a mother give her son some slack? How does he learn to make wise decisions?”

 

Sitting on the steps of the front porch, I said, “Let’s get the scratches on your hand cleaned up, have some cookies, and then I’ll give you some tree climbing lessons.” Both boys shouted and gave each other high-fives. Russell turned to me and said, “Thanks, Mom!” And as he ran into the house, he called over his shoulder, “I knew you’d catch me!”

I praise God for Mothers and lessons learned!

Edwina

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Because of Love

We couldn’t find her. We frantically looked throughout the house, but our 2 ½ year old granddaughter was nowhere to be found. Our plans to introduce all our grandchildren to their great grandparents had become a horrible disaster.

With a river behind the house and a creek in front of the house, we quickly broadened our search. I kept thinking, “They were all playing in the same room with us. What could have happened?” And I thought, “I’ll go back through the house one more time.”

I found nothing. Just an empty house. Then I remembered Grandpa on the back porch. The side effects from a recent stroke had left most of his body paralyzed. We all knew that he loved the back porch. So that’s where his hospital bed and all the machines and contraptions were hooked up. His face was distorted a little and his speech was difficult to understand which made most of the children afraid of him. We always went with them to visit him. We had visited with him briefly that morning and then left him to rest.

I carefully opened the door to the porch to check on him. All seemed well. Then I saw something move. I looked more closely. There on the bed was Lindsay! How did that little 2 ½ year old maneuver between all the tubes, machines, and rails around the bed? (Was she destined to be a mountain climber someday?) And she wasn’t sitting at the foot of the bed. She was comfortably nestled in between his paralyzed left arm and his chest. How did she get there and what was she doing up there?

As I listened, I discovered that she was talking 90 miles an hour, and Grandpa’s eyes were following every word she said. His eyes were twinkling and loving the attention. Occasionally, Lindsay would pat his arm as if to tell him “everything’s going to be OK.”

I tiptoed outside, gathered everyone up, and took them inside to show them what I had discovered. We all marveled at the scene before us. And at the same time we wondered what made Lindsay get up in that bed. I think it’s because of love that she – as little as she was – saw a need and ministered to the need the only way she knew how.

…Snow and ice blanked the yard and streets causing the schools to close. We were busy taking advantage of the extra time to clean out the closets and drawers. The kids were reluctantly helping us.

On her way to the kitchen to get a snack, Elizabeth looked outside at the snow. What she saw froze her heart and caused her to scream for help. She opened the back door and slipped and scampered toward the pool where our precious dog had fallen in. It looked like he’d been in the freezing water for some time by the splash marks around the pool.

In the few seconds she had, Elizabeth – knowing she didn’t have the strength to pull him out – jumped in to rescue Macho, our 90 lb. boxer. As she hit the cold water and saw his legs churning, she decided that she had to push him up out of the water. She took a big breath of air, went under the water and pushed him with all of her might. She was pushing and he was pulling with all his might.

By this time, we all were out there pulling Macho and her out of the water and fussing at her for not waiting for us. We rushed Elizabeth into a hot tub of water, Macho into a hot shower, and warmed blankets in the clothes dryer for both of them.

What caused Elizabeth to risk falling and breaking a leg on the ice or coming down with pneumonia…for a dog? She told us there was no one else to help him, that she was there and had to do something to rescue him. And besides that, she loved him!

…He heard the jack collapse and sheer fear filled his mind. Before he could move, the four-door sedan fell on his chest. The pain was intense, breathing was difficult, and he knew he had only seconds to live. He heard his son asking what he should do to help. Should he run get help?

There was no time to call for help. It would take too long for anyone to get there. His only chance at getting out from under that car was his 12 year old son. So the father said, “Son, you are the only help I need. You must pick up the front end of this car enough for me to crawl out.”

R.J. replied that he wasn’t strong enough to pick up a car! His father responded, “Son, you can do this. I need you to pick up this car now! I’ll count to three and then you will pick it up and I will scoot out. Ready, one…two…three!”

And R.J picked up the front end of the car! His father had just enough room to inch his way out from under the car. Mr. Patterson was bruised and had several broken ribs. R.J.’s hands were cut where he lifted with such determination and pressure.

“Impossible,” you may be thinking. But our God does the impossible!

When I asked him why he even tried to pick up the car, his answer made perfect sense. He said, “Because I love my Daddy, I knew that if I didn’t pick it up, my Daddy would die. I had to pick it up so I asked God to use my hands to pick it up. And He did.”

…Years ago because of mankind’s need and there being no one else qualified to help mankind, God sent forth His Only Son to rescue us from the death hold sin had on us. There was no one else to help us. And Jesus did what no one else could do. With His death and resurrection, He did the impossible! He made it possible for us to have a relationship with God.

What caused the Sinless Son of God to agree to be the remedy to the need for a Savior? Why did He choose to suffer such an excruciating death on a cross? Why did He stay on the cross? He could have come down. He had the power and the authority. After all, He was the Son of Almighty God! He could move mountains, part the sea, tell the sun when to shine, and raise the dead…if He wanted to.   He knew that He was the only One who could help us. So why did He remain on the Cross? Because of love!

“For God loved the world so much that He gave His One and Only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life”(John 3:16, NLT, capitals mine).

My heart hurts as I think about this time of year and see the world engrossed in Easter eggs, baskets, bunnies, and new clothes. It seems as if we take His love for granted…that we don’t appreciate it. I want to get a cross and march across America singing, “On a hill far way stood an old rugged cross….” I want to wake people up. I want them to remember what a relationship with Jesus cost Him. I want them to live like they love Him! I want Him to see that we love Him and are willing to tell others about His great gift of love to mankind.

“If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing. Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance….Three things will last forever – faith, hope, and love – and the greatest of these is love” (1 Cor. 13:1-7,13NLT).

Are you living a life that presents Christ’s love for mankind? If not, why not? Why don’t you pick up a cross and join me. We may not literally march across America, but we can live before those in our home, office, and community.

I’m praying for you!

Edwina

 

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